As humans, we tend to let our emotions, pride, and desires to cloud our ability to accurately weigh the pros and cons of any given situation.
Sometimes you have to take a tough decision. Not all the decisions that we make in our lives are easy. These days I’m going through with the same. Though some decisions are complicated but deep inside I know those will worth at the end.(Hopefully)
Alternatively, I may feel so fearful of a minor failure that I may neglect the tremendously positive opportunities in front of me. But one thing to remember the adage, “don’t gamble with something you can’t afford to lose.” While this may sound like folksy wisdom, it takes a lot of self-awareness to put it into practice.
While I stand by this belief, I realize that it is somewhat of an oversimplification. There are a few situations in life where we have no control whatsoever. More often than not, we have some control over a given situation, but not complete control.
A great example of this can be found in our legal system. When preparing for litigation, you have to do everything in your power to prove your case. However, when it goes to a judge, there’s nothing more you can do to exert control. You have to live with the verdict, one way or another.
The key is to do everything in your power to influence a scenario but also find the wisdom to recognize the point at which it is no longer in your control.
It’s the same for making difficult decisions. You have to put in the effort to find the facts, weigh the pros and cons, and pick a path. Then, once done, you have to recognize that the outcome of that decision is no longer in your control. No amount of self-doubt or second-guessing with change the outcome. It merely is what it is.
Regret comes from making a rash move or committing to a path without all of the facts. In the end, what I believe is to listen to your hopes because they often give you deeper insight into the decisions you want to make.
कड़ी धूप में, छांव दे दूं,
आ जिंदगी तुझे फिर से घुमाव दे दूँ…💫