Pretended to be okay when you are not doesn’t prevent pain; it prolonges it.

In truth, many of us pretend to be happy at some point in time or another. Maybe we’re just having a bad day and so we put on a smile and pretend in order to keep those around us happy. Or maybe it’s been a bad week or a bad month.

I am in that spot these days. I never wanted to be looked at as weak as I never allow myself to look like that, no matter what I never learn to give up in my life. But sometimes you reached a point of time in life where you actually tired from pretending and you do not understand how to deal with the situations. I thought handling everything by myself and not bothering anyone with my problems was the way to go. Yeah, it’s not. Admitting you are struggling is a sign of strength.

Pretended to be okay when you are not doesn’t prevent pain; it prolongs it.

And this happens for all of us to some degree or another. Why? Because we don’t want negativity and problems. Without any tool to see through the veil of negativity and find the good behind it, we have no choice but to run. We have no choice but to cover it up and pretend everything is OK. It’s our survival mechanism. Everything is not always okay and things aren’t always the way we’d like them to be. But it seems we’re obligated to be happy, jolly and tolerant people all the time. 

But I feel like, I’ll no longer tolerate certain things. Not because I’ve become arrogant. Simply because I’ve reached a point in my life where I no longer want to waste time with things I don’t like or ones that hurt me.

And, I dislike betrayal and a lack of loyalty in friendships. I really don’t get along with people who don’t know how to praise or encourage. And above all, I no longer have the patience for anyone who doesn’t deserve it.

But, I believe You are allowed to struggle. It’s cliche, but let go and let God. He is present through every storm and every struggle you will face. After all, he already knows what’s going on in your life.

#Try to deal with Life

~Adv Ankita Wadhwa

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